A wave can be sent by all Free & Premium Members to test the waters first with matching members. To minimise the number of emails you receive, waves are always summarised in one email to the member and have no personal text or contact details included. Because waves are summarised they can be received in following frequencies: 'Almost instantly', 'Hourly', 'Twice daily' or 'Daily'. If you don't wish to receive any emails from members at all, you can suspend your profile and select 'Contact closed'.

A message can only be sent by Premium Members and may contain personal text (a pre-written text that can be over written by the member), exchanging as little or as much info and contact details as desired. Messages are sent instantly as an individual email to the member and always have the member's email address in the reply field. A 'Reply Yes' or 'Reply Maybe' message can be sent by Free Members who received a 'Contact' wave or message from a current Premium Member.

The system will automatically display the wave or message options available to you, depending if you are a Free or a Premium Member.